Top Mistakes Part 4

I started an occasional blog sharing my top life mistakes. Here is a brief review from parts 1-3:

Mistake 1: I didn’t meet new people and make new friends continuously.
Mistake 2: I took life for granted.
Mistake 3: I didn’t follow a workout plan at the gym.
Mistake 4: I avoided reading fiction books.
Mistake 5: I complained and nag at everything in life.
Mistake 6: I acted like a child.
Mistake 7: Trivia is trivial in my life. Who cares.
Mistake 8: I didn’t want to expand my horizons in life.
Mistake 9: Food is food. Food doesn’t make a difference in life.

Here are the next mistakes I corrected:

Mistake 10a: I Stay Quiet Because I’m Wrong

I was afraid talking and communicating with people because I was afraid to be wrong throughout my childhood, high school, college, and part of my adult life. I was afraid to say something wrong because I didn’t want to be embarrassed, be laughed at, and I didn’t want others thinking I was an idiot. I believe that’s why most people thought I was a quiet person. I really wasn’t a quiet person. I like to talk to people. I’m actually a loud person—I must talk softer because I tend to be a loud talker. I didn’t talk to prevent saying something stupid.

The lesson I learned is have courage to make mistakes and say something wrong. How am I going to be correct if I don’t say something wrong and somebody corrects me or I ask questions? Nobody is going to say I’m stupid. We learn by doing and making mistakes.

Another benefit is I continue to improve my conversation and social skills. I’m catching up on these skills I should have mastered when I was in college.

Mistake10b: My Abstract Thinking Is Stupid

I believe my abstract thinking was the reason I was a quiet person throughout most of my life. I said something different and people said I’m wrong. Some of them didn’t want to listen to me and some of them were not convinced with what I said. I was afraid and nervous I didn’t speak clearly and I didn’t speak in a way for the listeners to understand.

The lesson I learned is speak up. Share what you’re thinking. Speak your opinions. Talk what you know. Communicate your moments. Don’t be afraid and nervous. Smile to show sincerity in your communication. Trust your abstract thinking and abstract mind. That’s why you majored in Economics.

Mistake 11: I’m A Nice Guy

Too polite. Apologizes too many times and even unnecessarily. Being passive when it comes to making choices. Letting the other person have his or her way. Sometimes not speaking up to avoid conflicts. Being boring. These are the top characteristics of a nice guy. I used to be that person. Not anymore.

The lesson I learned is be a good guy. Don’t be a nice guy. A good guy has courage. A good guy seeks new adventures, experience new experiences, attracts people or a there he is person, and learns from his mistakes. He sincerely apologizes. He likes action—his actions speak for himself. He speaks his mind. If the situation dedicates, he makes the choice as if he’s a leader. A good guy is dependable.

Mistake 12: My Life Is Set

I corrected this mistake before I realized I must grow up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. I believed in fate throughout my high school and college years. I believed my life was set. I was going to be this person doing this, being that, living here, and working there without question.

The lesson I learned is there is no such thing as fate. I believe my life is what I want to do, who I want to be with, where I want to be, and I choose how I accomplish all of these. I always question why I do all these. I make adjustments to correct my mistakes and to improve and to innovate my life. Life doesn’t choose my life. I choose what I do in my life.

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Positives Wed Jan 25-Sun Feb 12, 2012

*Played Android board game for the first time.

*Installed a new air filter for my car.

*Finished watching C3 Cube X Cursed X Curious.

*Super Bowl XLVI.

*Watched Kung Fu Panda and Kung Fu Panda 2.

*Went to the Game Kastle flea market and purchased Muchkin, Dixit: Odyssey, and Shootin’ Ladders for a total of $35.

*Celebrated Chinese New Year with my family.

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What Is A Moment Everyone Must Have?

There is a moment every person must experience. This moment is growing up. There are two ways the moment arrives. The first way is another person tells the person to grow up. The person can be a parent, close friend, sibling, ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, ex-spouse, or anyone creditable in the person’s life. The second way is self-discovery. The person experiences the moment, the tipping point that being immature, being a jerk, and being a prick are over. It’s time to end the behavior of a teenager.

My moment I realized I must grow up was self-discovery. It was on Sat Oct 4, 2008 in Downtown Los Altos. I was walking to my car after visiting the Los Altos Arts & Crafts fair. I said to myself, “I must grow up.” I realized that after seeing all the families at the fair and seeing (comparing) the people inside the library playing board games. I played board games with a friend earlier in the morning.

It’s unfortunate there are some people who never experience the growing up moment. These immature people are everyone if one thinks carefully. These immature people work retail, blue collar, or white collar jobs. For instance, my co-worker at Colliers was immature, yet he worked at the company for a long time. We had a few brokers who were hard to get along with.

There are two articles that talk about growing up:

Askmen.com’s John Cheese wrote about “The Reformed Douchebag.”
Link: http://www.askmen.com/entertainment/austin_3800/3857_the-reformed-douchebag.html

Forbes Magazine’s Michael Ellsberg interviewed Tucker Max, the bestselling author of “I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell.” Max is retiring from the wild life and ready to settle down. The interview is long.
Link: http://www.forbes.com/sites/michaelellsberg/2012/01/18/tucker-max-gives-up-the-game/

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